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Sunday, September 21, 2014

What's in Your Lunch Box?

My daughter recently made me buy her this Hello Kitty thermos.
From the time he was born at 4.2 pounds, five weeks early, now more than seven years ago, our son was a picky eater.

Told by doctors at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia to supplement Griffin’s meager intake of breast milk with formula, I tried six different brands—all of which either constipated him or caused the opposite problem—before finding one that brought my tiny son’s gastrointestinal tract to an uneasy equilibrium.

When he was old enough for solid foods, Griffin enjoyed spitting his mashed peas and carrots all over the kitchen floor. And as a toddler and now elementary school student, our son has refused to veer, even slightly, from a diet of milk, chicken nuggets and bagels and cream cheese, complimented by an occasional apple.

Griffin’s twin sister, on the other hand, has historically been a pleasure to feed. Georgia sucked down her breast milk and formula, slurped up a wide variety of mashed fruits and vegetables, and has heartily partaken in adult dishes at dinnertime, gliding smoothly, unlike her twin brother and younger sister, into dessert.

But with her recent entry into second grade, Georgia seems to have undergone a transformation in tastes that is causing me intense frustration. She has decided to exert her independence in the form of controlling her menus—an area I prefer she avoid, since I’m already overwhelmed trying to nourish her traditionally much finickier brother and sister.

It all started with a thermos.

“I think for second grade, I need a thermos,” Georgia informed me several days before school started. “You know, to bring soup or noodles in.”

No. I didn’t know. And those food items she listed were two of the only meals I could get everyone to agree on for dinner.

So, like any practical mother, I ignored my daughter’s request.

But Georgia remained undeterred, bursting into tears on our walk home from the bus after the first day of school, wailing that lunch had been “terrible.”

“Why? What happened?” I cried in alarm. “Didn’t you have anyone to sit next to?”
“No, nothing like that,” Georgia retorted with a sniffle. “The cream cheese you put on my bagel got all over my lunch box and my shirt!”

And for the next couple of hours, instead of telling me about her lovely new teacher, how she had arranged her supplies in her desk and what books she had checked out from the school library, Georgia aired her newfound culinary complaints.

“No more peanut butter and jelly sandwiches,” she said. “I don’t like carrots in my lunch, unless you have those little packages of dip. And I don’t like my apples cut curved anymore. I like them cubed.”
“Don’t you think you’re taking this a bit far?”
“Maybe,” Georgia said, conceding at least on the apples. “But I still really need a thermos.”

As frustrated as I was by my daughter’s headstrong behavior, I also sensed that Georgia was working through an important though mysterious developmental issue—taking the form of dictating her lunchtime menu—the cause of which I would never unravel but that I instinctively understood I should try to respect.

So I spent a weary evening circling the crowded aisles of the Target off City Line Avenue, searching for one of those old-fashioned thermoses that I had had in the 1970s. But instead of finding plastic jugs encased in plaid, all I could see were rows of insulated coffee mugs in a myriad of shapes and sizes and an alarming array of water bottles with straws, spouts and spigots.

I was about to give up when I spotted a preteen in a school uniform, who directed me to the camping section, where she nostalgically caressed a squat Hello Kitty thermos I had somehow missed in my meanderings. “My mom used to put soup in one of these for me,” the girl said.

Georgia was ecstatic when I brought it home.

“Jiayi has this exact same one!” she exclaimed. “What are you going to make for me tomorrow?”
“Soup?” I limply offered.
“Yes!” Georgia said, triumphantly declaring the next afternoon that Hello Kitty had kept her chicken noodle warm.

As I hovered over the stove boiling pasta for my daughter at 7 the following morning, I noticed to my dismay that Griffin—who I had always been able to count on to demand only a cream cheese bagel, applesauce and milk for lunch—was eyeing the Spider Man thermos that I had felt compelled to buy him to match his twin sister’s.

“What could you put in that?” he asked.
“Oh, I don’t know,” I said, sighing, overwhelmed, caving in. “Chicken nuggets?”
“But where would I get ketchup?”

Griffin shook his head.

“I know!” he proclaimed, offering a sudden epiphany. “You could put ice cream in it!”
“Maybe on your birthday,” I said.

Then I neatly tucked away one of the offending thermoses in a bottom drawer for what I hoped would be the rest of the school year.

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Friday, August 29, 2014

Should've Been a Plumber

I gladly handed my husband the plunger as soon as he returned.
When I picked up our groggy 8-year-old Havanese from the vet—where he had had yet two more teeth pulled for a price tag of more than $300—the technician instructed me to feed him soft food and dose him with anti-inflammatory pills for the next several days.

This post-op plan had proven effective last summer, when Buddy suffered through not just two but 12 extractions. He slurped up his mushy meals, benumbed to his recently mined jaw. But for some reason, this time, Buddy’s recovery progressed less smoothly—a realization that hit me smack in the nose as I lay in bed trying to unwind after a long day with our sick dog, twin 7-year-olds and 4-year-old.

Gorging on a Netflix binge session of the third season of “Homeland,” I began to detect something pungent in the air. Ignoring it didn’t work. The stink only gained muscle. And finally peeking down from my pillows, I saw that Buddy had defecated, not once, but three times, on our rug and bathroom floor.

“Jeff!” I hollered, leaping out of bed, not caring if I woke up the children. This was an emergency I needed my husband to resolve. So, like any sensible yet squeamish housewife, I handed Jeff plastic grocery sacks and Lysol wipes and then hovered in the doorway to Monday morning quarterback.

“You’re smooshing it into the rug,” I cried. “Just pick it up and dab!”
You want to do it?” my husband turned to me and asked.

Instead, I darted outside for some fresh air. I should’ve taken a few extra gulps. During that endless night, Jeff and I awoke every few hours to the sound and stench of our dog unwillingly relieving himself on the bathroom floor.

“This is more exhausting than having a newborn,” my husband said, as I doled out more disinfectant wipes.
“And much grosser,” I added.

But the sun was shining the next morning when the vet granted permission to discontinue our dog’s medication and suggested I feed him rice, which gradually began to bind Buddy up. The future even seemed to brighten a little—that is until, in my sleep-deprived haze, I heard my 4-year-old daughter yelling that the powder room potty wouldn’t flush.

So I trudged upstairs for the plunger, which I half-heartedly pumped up and down in the bowl before deciding I had failed. Then I made the passive-aggressive move of sending my husband a detailed text at work about our crisis at home and asking if I should call the plumber.

“Wait till I get there,” Jeff wrote back.

And though I had little faith that he would meet with victory in that stinky little water closet—and that we would awake on the morrow with a still clogged and even more offensive situation—I gladly closed the bathroom door and stuck a fluorescent green Post-It on the knob that read, “DO NOT USE!” I also told the three children to run to the upstairs loo when nature called.

Despite these unmistakable indications that our powder room was out of order, my 7-year-old son, who can hear and read, soon reported that he had made a “terrible” mistake.

“I accidentally went in the bathroom,” he said, “number two.”
“It’s OK,” I sighed. “Your dad will fix it when he gets home.”

And I returned to the more pressing task of releasing our dog yet again into the yard and trying to pick up as much of his excrement trail as I could gather into another one of those plastic sacks.

As soon as Jeff crossed our threshold that evening, I turned over not just a collection of these bags and the responsibility they entailed but also the toilet plunger.

“Did you get it unclogged?” I kept asking, lurking outside the powder room door.

My husband soon emerged, waving the dripping instrument in the reckless abandon of his pride, and declared, “I should’ve been a plumber!”

I considered this statement.

“Yes, you should have,” I decided, suddenly realizing that were Jeff to leave the tangled fields of education and enter the leaky water-world of fittings and pipes, we would actually be richer and have fewer problems than we seem to have now.

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Thursday, June 19, 2014

Princess B.O.

Princess Anise proved too smelly to save.
About 5 o’clock this morning, birthday-zilla reared its fearsome head in the form of our youngest daughter, who tromped into our bedroom to remind us that she was now 4.

“Can I open my presents?” Jane demanded.
“No,” I growled.

But our child-monster would not relent.

After 17 minutes of her pestering, I rolled out from under the covers and scratched a toothbrush across my teeth. I tried to brew pot of coffee as Jane danced around my legs, swatting at the packages I’d placed on the counter.

“I want to open my presents!” she clamored.

As soon as my husband came downstairs, Jane tore the wrapping off of her new Hello Kitty pajamas, her “Fancy Nancy” books and—my coup d’état—her Lala-oopsie doll, Princess Anise.

“A Lala-oopsie!” Jane squealed in delight, as I freed it from the shackles of 37 tiny rubber bands and twisty ties with the kitchen shears. Finally emancipated from its packaging, Princess Anise found herself freshly imprisoned in Jane’s embrace.

At this climactic moment, with my twin 7-year-olds and fresh 4-year-old gathered around me on the couch, I began to realize that I was suffering from a terrible case of body odor.

I sniffed my armpits. I smelled like onions that had been left outside for the past two days—two days during which a blanket of humidity had encased our suburban Philadelphia neighborhood and temperatures had soared into the 90s.

“You stink, mommy!” my son exclaimed.

I must have sweated more than I had realized during the night.

But even after I had temporarily excused myself to bathe from the presence of birthday-zilla—who at 6:17 a.m. was now demanding cake—my husband later confessed that he had continued to detect a rancid stench. And when my in-laws came by mid-morning to wish Jane a happy birthday, they kept asking her what she’d had for breakfast.

“Cereal,” replied birthday-zilla, who promptly began to dun her grandparents for more presents.

The foul funk even seemed to follow us into the minivan on our way to the supermarket to pick out Jane’s cake, an errand during which she clutched her Lala-oopsie and pronounced that she should be “rule-maker” since it was her birthday.

As I unstrapped my daughter from her car seat, the onion stench seemed particularly powerful. So I unclenched Princess Anise from Jane’s grasp and took a whiff of the doll’s pink and blue rubber head. It reeked like the underskirt of a husky woman on a sultry day.

When my husband returned from work, I thrust the Lala-oopsie under his nose.

“It must have been made in a sweatshop—literally,” he said, darting, as is his want, onto Google.

“This is why I love the Internet!” Jeff exclaimed, showing me that before he had even finished typing “Lala-oopsie smell,” a kaleidoscope of responses rippled onto the screen. Most informative, I thought, was a Facebook thread, which provided not only helpful anecdotes but also highly entertaining reading:

“My mother bought Princess Anise for my youngest daughter a few days ago, and I have never had a doll that smelled like this,” one person wrote. “ONIONS/B.O. is exactly the way she smells… This nasty heifer has to get out of my house!”

“Oh my word! I thought I was crazy!” concurred another mother. “We bought one yesterday, and I thought my 4-year-old had B.O.! That doll smelled up the entire child room at the YMCA!”

“I changed deodorant, laundry soap and even threw away my perfume,” the thread went on. “Finally, I woke up nose-to-nose with this doll… GAG! Just what are we inhaling??”

“Witchcraft…” surmised another writer.

Relieved not only that I was in good company but also that I was not going mad and that I was not suffering from a perimenopausal case of persistent perspiration, I informed Jane that Princess Anise would now have to reside in the garbage.

My daughter ceased her tantrum only long enough to hear me say I would take her to the store to choose a new gift.

“I like my Lala-oopsie!” Jane wailed. “Why does she have to be stinky? Do you think she’s filled with peanuts?”

Luckily, the birthday girl brightened up after selecting "Karry," an unscented cloth doll that I was relieved to note was crafted in Germany according to that country's rigid standards—thankfully including olfactory. But as if in futile protest, the Lala-oopsie continued to emit her sour onion stench, even from within a tightly sealed Ziploc bag, as I dropped her into the outdoor trash.

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Saturday, June 14, 2014

New Shoes for an Old Goat

Unable to find a dress for my 25th reunion, I bought some '80s Nikes.
A herd of goats recently moved into our suburban Philadelphia neighborhood.

I discovered this curiosity the other day during a run near my house on one of those converted rails-to-trails. A bearded man—eerily alike his bearded charges—was securing an electric fence around the “eco-goats” he had just released to graze along the hillside and clear out the invasive foliage.

In the coming days, I became obsessed with these creatures, especially after I read a sign alerting passersby that goats would eat a variety of weeds noxious to humans, including poison ivy; counseling onlookers to keep their dogs from distracting the foragers from their industriousness; and indicating that our time with these hungry friends would last only until the weekend.

Later that afternoon, I marched my soon-to-be-4-year-old down the muddy trail to have a look.

“Do goats have big teeth?” Jane worriedly inquired in between complaints that her legs hurt.

To my amazement, the animals had denuded a broad patch of the overgrown hillside in just a few hours. My daughter stopped whining, and we stood side-by-side gazing at the multi-colored goats, numbering close to 20, as they wrapped their flexible mouths around vines, bushes and even small trees.

By the time I had coaxed Jane back down the trail with her 7-year-old twin brother and sister the next afternoon, the herd had made even more dramatic progress. A wide swath of bare stems decorated the lower regions of the landscape. Large holes now offered a view higher up onto the hill where we could see weed trees shuddering as the goats felled them without mercy.

I stood transfixed, again, watching the animals and batting away swarming gnats, suddenly realizing that what I was really interested in was not the goats themselves but their devastating efficiency at ripping out the undergrowth. This clear-cutting quickly became a metaphor for me as I prepared to wander into the thickets of my past—by flying to Seattle for my 25th high school reunion—and I almost wished I could hire a trusty goat to help me do some personal weeding.

I felt ambivalent about attending an event that simultaneously confronted me with my uncomfortable youth and reminded me that I really was getting old. In emails and Facebook posts that circulated prior to the gathering, unfamiliar names kept popping up, names for which I could not produce faces.

Who was “Vincent”? Why was he writing in from Brussels? And were these the signs of early onset Alzheimer’s that I had lately been ignoring?

Twenty-five years since graduating from high school, several moves, two careers, three kids, a dog and a husband later, the furrows in my brow have deepened into permanent creases. My vision is blurred. My patience is thin.

Still admiring the goats, I slipped deeper into a surreal reverie about them grazing on my gray hairs, plucking out the unwanted growth from my mind.

I ultimately had to settle, however, for a hurried trip with my 3-year-old to some local shops to try to spruce up my appearance before I revisited my past. Unfortunately, the only makeup saleswoman I could find was standing behind the Dior counter, and distracted by Jane tugging at my purse and whining about her legs again, I inadvertently bought a $60 “bb cream” that I had no idea how to apply.

“What’s bb cream?” I asked.
“Wow!” the woman exclaimed. “You really have been out of the game for a while!”

Then after fruitlessly searching for a dress that would transform me into a vision of effortless Boho chic, I walked away with a pair of garish red Nikes instead.

After all, I did have an ‘80s dance party to contend with as part of this reunion, I reasoned, shuddering slightly at the thought. Even while I was still inhabiting it, I knew that that decade held little promise for me, in terms of fashion or otherwise.

“Nikes are ‘80s, right?” I asked my patient husband, as I tried to justify my impulse purchase without having answered the more pressing question of what to put on the rest of my body when confronting childhood classmates and friends.

“You can just wear one of your old dresses,” my 7-year-old daughter advised, not realizing that most of those frocks looked a little too tired and tacky even for an ‘80s re-enactment.

Out of time, I ended up chucking random and sundry items from closet into my roller bag and caught a ragged night’s sleep before my cross-country trip.

“Did you miss your flight last night?” an airport official asked me as I eased myself into a seat at the empty gate early the next morning. I now worried that I must look even worse than I had thought.

“No,” I answered. “I just have a habit of arriving way too early.”

Even to a trip to the past, I added to myself, closing my eyes to imagine again those voracious goats, uprooting the wrinkles and cares of time—clearing a wider path toward the future as I waited to revisit my youth.